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Zen in a Thimble

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This is a way I use to bring thoughts to the physical world. There are a great many of them, and the better you get at creating them (thinking em up)The easier it will be to find work around in the real world, when obstacles and hurtles present themselves. I'm not exactly sure of why they work, but they do. Ok, for the first one, take all your money out of your pocket. Now lay it down on a table or something on the other side of the room. Now go find a seat somewhere that still lets you see your money. Now look at that money and try to think of ways to get that money back in your pocket. And you cant get help.List them.Hopefully everybody figured it out. If you are not magic, you gotta get up and go get it. Only way. If you are magic, then you dont need this article, so put it down and call me, imeechatly. Doing This exercise makes you see in the physical world what you think. And from it you should see that the way to get what you want is to go get it, and bring it back to you. th...

The Extraverted Essence of Empathy ~ Carl Jung

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Empathy: An introjection of the object, based on the unconscious projection of subjective contents. (Compare identification.) Empathy presupposes a subjective attitude of confidence, or trustfulness towards the object. It is a readiness to meet the object halfway, a subjective assimilation that brings about a good understanding between subject and object, or at least simulates it. [“The Type Problem in Aesthetics,” CW 6, par. 489.] In contrast to abstraction, associated with introversion, empathy corresponds to the attitude of extraversion. The man with the empathetic attitude finds himself . . . in a world that needs his subjective feeling to give it life and soul. He animates it with himself. [ Ibid., par. 492.] To Olga Frobe-Kapteyn Dear Frau Frobe, 16 August 1947 The dissolution of the transference often consists in ceasing to describe the nature of one’s relationship as “transference.” This designation degrades the relationship to a mere projection, which it is not. “Transference”...

The Secret to Success: Why Helping Others Helps You

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Many people believe that to achieve success, you must focus solely on your own goals and actions. They'll teach you strategies for personal achievement, but they often overlook one of the most powerful and effective methods for getting what you want in life: helping others achieve what they want. You’ve likely heard of the Golden Rule : "Do to others what you would have them do to you." This isn't just a moral principle; it’s a blueprint for amplified success. If your life has been focused on a purely selfish philosophy and you've found some success, imagine how much more you could achieve by shifting a portion of your time, energy, and actions toward the benefit of others. The key to unlocking this potential is self-reflection. Start by asking yourself these questions about your current situation: What feels missing from my life right now? What goals do I still need to achieve to move forward? If I know my life's purpose, am I actively moving closer to it? If...

The Power of No: How to Set Boundaries and Protect Your Time

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Many of us struggle with saying no. We're afraid of disappointing people, hurting their feelings, or missing an opportunity. As a result, we often find ourselves overwhelmed, overcommitted, and trapped in situations we never wanted to be in. The good news is, you can learn to say no without guilt. By setting clear boundaries and valuing your own time and well-being, you can reclaim control of your life. Here are some tips to help you master the art of saying no: Mind Your Own Business: You don't have to get involved in everything. If a situation doesn't concern you or align with your priorities, don't step in. Engaging in things you know little about can create more problems for you in the long run. Focus your energy on what truly matters to you. Prioritize Your Time: Before you say yes to a new task, consider if it's a good use of your time. Does it move you closer to your goals, or does it pull you away from what's important? If a request will eat up time th...

The Nature of Belief: Separating Knowledge from Faith

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Narratives and organizing principles shape our understanding of the world. Science, for instance, is driven by evidence from experiments, constantly evolving as old theories are replaced by newer, more accurate ones. Other systems, like religion, nationalism, or art, are built on personal, internal experiences such as faith, inspiration, or emotion. These two types of narratives—evidential and experiential—often intersect. A scientist's religious belief might inspire them to see their work as a way to understand God's creation. Similarly, national pride can motivate scientific endeavors, though science can also be corrupted to serve nationalist or racist agendas. The fundamental units of all narratives are defined by their effects. In this sense, God can be compared to electrons, quarks, and black holes. None of these can be directly observed, but their existence is inferred from the effects they have on their environment. The difference is that God's effects are primarily ...

Websters Word for the week of August 25, 2025

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Featuring the "Websters Word for the week of..." section, where each Monday a new term related to spirituality (and everyday life) is highlighted from Merriam-Webster. The word for this week: Asceticism : 1 : the practice of strict self-denial as a measure of personal and especially spiritual discipline : the condition, practice, or mode of life of an ascetic : rigorous abstention from self-indulgence Sacrifice, renunciation, asceticism, fasting, returning again to God … : these are inclinations fueled as much by instinct as by religious idealism. —Joyce Carol Oates Crossing the Atlantic in a small sailboat is an exercise in asceticism, a test of what the human psyche can do without. —Sarah Ballard 2 : austerity in appearance, manner, or attitude His neatly trimmed white beard and runner's physique suggest the asceticism of a mathematics professor, while his questioning mind signals a mistrust of surface impressions. —Bruce Schoenfeld In contrast to the chaste asceticism ...

A Simple Guide to Body Detoxification

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The concept of a body detox has evolved from being primarily associated with drug and alcohol dependency to a broader practice for maintaining overall health. While the human body has a built-in detoxification system, our modern lifestyles can often overwhelm it. Factors such as chronic stress, lack of sleep, and diets rich in processed foods, alcohol, and caffeine can weaken our natural defenses and lead to a buildup of toxins. One of the most effective ways to support your body’s natural cleansing processes is through a carefully planned diet. A detox diet typically involves consuming raw, steamed, or gently stir-fried fruits and vegetables, along with pulses, sprouted seeds, and whole grains like brown rice or millet. These foods are packed with nutrients that help your organs function optimally. The low-fat, low-carb nature of diets like the Mediterranean diet also offers a healthy alternative to the oily, processed foods we often consume. In addition to diet, exercise is a powerfu...

Can What You Eat Make You Age Faster?

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Are you aware that some of the foods you eat could be accelerating your body's aging process? Recent advancements in nutritional science have shown us more than ever that "we are what we eat." The choices we make at mealtimes have a direct impact on our bodies, and over-indulgence in certain foods can lead to premature aging. One of the key factors in this process is the production of free radicals. Free radicals are molecules with an unpaired electron, a normal byproduct of metabolism. They are essential for processes like converting food into energy. However, an over-production of free radicals can cause significant damage to the body. This is where antioxidants come in. Antioxidants are substances, often found in fruits and vegetables, that neutralize free radicals and protect the body from their damaging effects. Every time you eat, your body produces free radicals. The larger the meal, the more free radicals are formed, and the more antioxidants your body needs to ne...

The Myth of the "Aha" Moment: How to Cultivate an Innovative Mindset

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The idea of innovation as a sudden, magical "aha" moment is a pervasive myth. We often hear about a light bulb turning on, or a flash of insight striking an inventor. While moments of sudden clarity do happen, they are not random or unearned. They are the result of consistent, focused mental work. The "overnight success" of a musician who has spent a decade practicing is a perfect analogy; their breakthrough is the culmination of years of effort. Innovative people have "sudden" ideas because they have cultivated specific mental habits that make those ideas possible. If you want to become a more innovative thinker, start by cultivating these habits yourself. Cultivating an Innovative Mindset See Problems as Opportunities We typically see problems as negative—hassles or sources of stress. However, every problem is a potential opportunity for innovation. The need for a more convenient way to tell time led to the wristwatch. The issue of widespread disease led...

Honesty: The First Step to a Happier, Healthier Life

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The journey toward a happier and healthier life begins with a single, fundamental step: honesty. This principle is the cornerstone of personal growth, a truth recognized even in the 12-Steps, which are not just for those with addiction or a specific faith. As a clinician, I've seen firsthand how simply living by these spiritual principles can dramatically improve symptoms of anxiety, depression, anger, and addiction. Spirituality is more than religion; it's a way of life, and these principles are found in all faiths and are helpful to everyone, regardless of their beliefs. To begin, let's focus on honesty. This isn't just about being truthful with others; it’s about being honest with yourself. This involves developing a strong sense of self-awareness—understanding your likes, needs, and what you can truly control. It also means recognizing your feelings and their origins. Many people who suffer from anxiety, depression, or addiction only see the immediate trigger of the...

The Four Core Psychological Needs and Their Role in Conflict

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Conflict, both internal and external, is a fundamental part of the human experience. At its core, conflict arises when there is a mismatch between our internal feelings and our actions, or between our feelings and the actions of others. A deeper understanding of these conflicts can be found by examining four basic psychological needs that drive human behavior. When these needs are not met, conflict is often the result. 1. The Need to Be Valued and Appreciated: We all have a deep-seated need to feel that our contributions are recognized and that we are appreciated by others. This recognition serves as a powerful motivator. When this need is violated—when we feel unappreciated, taken for granted, or exploited—it can trigger intense emotional responses such as fear, anger, or a combination of both. 2. The Need for Control: The desire for control is a fundamental aspect of human psychology. It provides a sense of security and predictability. While everyone needs some level of control, the ...

Websters Word for the week of August 18, 2025

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Featuring the "Websters Word for the week of..." section, where each Monday a new term related to spirituality (and everyday life) is highlighted from Merriam-Webster. The word for this week: Introjection : introjected; introjecting; introjects transitive verb : to incorporate (attitudes or ideas) into one's personality unconsciously ↠ sharing is caring...

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How to Cope When Plans Go Wrong

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How do you react when your plans fall through? Do you roll with the punches or let anxiety take over? While our personality plays a role in how we deal with stress, here are five strategies to help you stay calm and centered when life throws a curveball. 1. Prioritize Sleep: It's common to get by on less than six hours of sleep, but experts recommend at least eight. Quality sleep doesn't just rest your body; it also rejuvenates your mind, helping to keep you from feeling irritable. Make your bedroom a relaxing haven. Avoid watching the news or working in bed. Instead, create a calming bedtime ritual like having a warm cup of tea, taking a bath, or reading a book to help you unwind. 2. Lean on Faith and Forgiveness: In moments of stress, especially when you have no control over the situation, a short prayer or a moment of reflection can provide a sense of calm. Studies have shown that people who trust in a higher power often have lower blood pressure. Similarly, letting go of gr...

Wisdom

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What is wisdom? But first, what are the conditions that render it desirable, if not necessary, and what is its essential purpose? Life is a desire to live, and better still a desire to live happily. As we strive to satisfy this desire, we encounter obstacles that complicate or frustrate our efforts. This complication or frustration amounts to suffering because it stands in the way of satisfaction. Wisdom is designed to help us cope with this suffering. It is an adaptive product of reason in the face of tough circumstances. Thanks to it, happiness is conceivable and achievable in spite of everything. It is therefore the supreme good. Actually, religion is a good that many rank equally high, since it serves the same purpose as wisdom, if differently. The difference lies in the way religion and wisdom portray suffering and define the meaning of life. From the perspective of religion, suffering betrays a state of worldly imperfection that is in contradiction with the human desire for perfe...

A Life of Will and Adaptation

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Life presents us with a choice: to embrace its challenges or to shrink from them. Some see existence as a risky and difficult ordeal, preferring the safety of the familiar. Others, however, are driven by a bold spirit, finding joy and purpose in facing adversity, whether it's scaling a mountain or tackling a personal struggle. The world has its unchangeable realities—its rules, limits, and duties. Our freedom lies not in changing these realities, but in choosing how we respond to them. We can either accept them and strive for a life of purpose and honor, or we can resist and invite misery. The latter is a self-inflicted pain and a pitiable way to live. The path of acceptance, while often difficult, is a compelling and honorable choice. It's about taking things as they come and making the most of them. This approach is highly adaptable and can be applied to any situation, as long as we aren't completely helpless. The key is our ability to adapt, even when it means letting g...

Hope: the Power that Perseveres!

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The dictionary defines hope as a looking out for something good; a belief that what we wish for will come. Are you hoping for the positive outcome of your dream, a sickness, or finances? Do you see the desired end result in your minds eye so vividly that you can almost touch it? What is your hope based on? Were you very excited yesterday when the stock market jumped or the doctor gave an optimistic prognosis? How about today, when the market had a sudden drop and the hospital reported further complications in your condition? Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. (Heb. 11:1). Now, what does that mean? You mean that no matter how hard it gets and when everything points to disaster you still have to hope against all hope? So, if you clench your teeth, purse your lips and scrunch your eyes together in faith trusting your dilemma will pass, it should go, right? Well, lets have a look how the Bible puts it. In the fifth book of Romans it tells us to eve...

Taking Control Over Your Anger

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One of the major roadblocks to strong relationships, both at home and at work, is the inability to effectively manage ones emotions. Of all the emotional, psychological and physical responses we experience in life, anger is perhaps the most challenging to process and control on a consistent basis. How you choose to respond to your anger will make a difference in the quality of your relationships, your physical and emotional well being and your effectiveness in bringing about positive and constructive change in your life. Here is a list of practical tips you can use to help manage your anger more effectively. 1. Understand What Anger Is Anger is a natural, God-designed emotional and physiological response to negative or threatening circumstances in life. When you believe that you have been treated unfairly or harshly, or when you experience frustration associated with an unmet need or goal, your mind and body prepare for action. It is this emotional and physiological response that we ca...

Websters Word for the week of August 11, 2025

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Featuring the "Websters Word for the week of..." section, where each Monday a new term related to spirituality (and everyday life) is highlighted from Merriam-Webster. The word for this week: Nostalgia : 1 : a wistful or excessively sentimental yearning for return to or of some past period or irrecoverable condition also : something that evokes nostalgia 2 : the state of being homesick : homesickness nostalgist,  nä-ˈstal-jist, pluralnostalgists … is no nostalgist chasing the resurrection of the grand old days. —Joe O'Connor ↠ sharing is caring...

The Garden As Healer

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The word for paradise comes from the Persian word for a garden and has always meant the same thing in every culture. It is representative of paradise on earth and is our opportunity to own a little bit of heaven here and now. It has a restorative significance as a healer when we understand that gardens provide us with a place of sanctuary and well-being. The garden has the potential to provide a place of refuge from stress, the health epidemic of the 21st century according to The World Health Organization. Medical doctors suggest that stress resulting in illness is the causative factor underlying 70% of all visits to the family doctor. The ability of the garden to provide this place of healing and peace becomes crucial as more and more people succumb to this dis-ease of modern day life. It matters little whether an indoor garden is a few pots on a windowsill or a lush garden room, what does matter is that plants add a dimension to the home/and or workplace that literally changes the en...

Choices

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All that you create or do not create in your life- comes from choice. Embrace and understand the dynamics of this essential ingredient of power. You suffer when you dis-empower yourself by feeling that you are not in control of your destiny. Freedom lies in understanding that you choose everything! Even in “inaction” there is a choice. In reality there is no true inaction or stagnation. You can justify your situation by proclaiming, “I have no choice” “I cannot do anything to change my circumstances” “there is nothing I can do” etc. That is a false belief. You can “choose” to allow the outer world to affect how you see your situation- yet; there is never a situation in which you do not have power and a choice. With each choice, there is a consequence and an energetic price that must be paid. So, it is not that you do not have a choice- you are only choosing which energetic price you choose to pay. If you are currently in a working situation in which you are unhappy, you can make severa...

Spiritual Growth: the Spiritual Challenge of Modern Times

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To grow spiritually in a world defined by power, money, and influence is a Herculean task. Modern conveniences such as electronic equipments, gadgets, and tools as well as entertainment through television, magazines, and the web have predisposed us to confine our attention mostly to physical needs and wants. As a result, our concepts of self-worth and self-meaning are muddled. How can we strike a balance between the material and spiritual aspects of our lives? To grow spiritually is to look inward. Introspection goes beyond recalling the things that happened in a day, week, or month. You need to look closely and reflect on your thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and motivations. Periodically examining your experiences, the decisions you make, the relationships you have, and the things you engage in provide useful insights on your life goals, on the good traits you must sustain and the bad traits you have to discard. Moreover, it gives you clues on how to act, react, and conduct yourself in t...

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